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  1. I must first apologize for the long message which you are about to read.

    In my mid50s (I’m now 61), I was finally and formally diagnosed with a learning disability (primarily involving working memory) in April 2016 and ADD (of the “inattentive presentation”, as described in my assessment report) in June 2018, respectively. Prior to these diagnoses, I had long suspected that there was something different about me, but, at that time, I could not define exactly what it was.

    When I, as an only and quiet child with few friends, was growing up in the 1960s and 1970s, I recall experiencing increasing difficulties in and with school. Sadly, since these conditions were not recognized for what they were at the time, there were no interventions from either my parents or my teachers. Consequently, these conditions had, have had, and continue to have profoundly negative impacts on my life. One such casualty was academics, which, after years of pressure, led me to drop out of high school.

    In late 2016, which was the last time I was gainfully employed, I was terminated from my position because of declining performance. From that last job to the time of this writing, I have been out of the world of work. Moreover, work has long been another problematic area of my life.

    Over the next couple of years, several major life events unfolded, two of which propelled me into the role of caregiver. In January 2017, my longtime friend and roommate, who is like family to me, suffered a major heart attack. Eight months later, he suffered a more devastating heart attack, from which I, along with his family, had initially thought that he might not survive. Fortunately, he did.

    Between these two events, the physical and mental health of my father, a fiercely independent soul, then 90, began to decline rapidly. Later that year, unable to care for himself, I was forced to place my father in long-term care. In early 2018, as my father’s condition continued its downward spiral, he passed away at 91.

    In February 2019, in need of a change of scenery, I returned to Laos, a small country in the heart of Southeast Asia, where I volunteered with a Canadian charity with which I had volunteered eight years earlier.

    In early 2020, I returned to my beloved Southeast Asia to explore more of Laos, and to a lesser extent, Thailand. During my stay in Laos, I volunteered with a local charity that provides water filters, washing stations, and soap to villages.

    In mid-2022, I slipped into the role of caregiver again when my longtime friend and roommate had to have his right leg below the knee amputated.

    Around that same time, decades after I dropped out of school, I pursued my GED. Several months after entering the program, I successfully completed it. Afterwards, my counselor put me in touch with an employment agency with which their program works.

    At first, I was uneasy about approaching the agency. Then I got in touch with them. But working with the agency has been a slow process, particularly with respect to them acknowledging my communications. When I finally did coordinate with the employment counselor, I was presented with some entry level options. While I do realize that it has been years since I have worked and that I have to start somewhere, the prospects presented did not inspire me with confidence. In fact, I felt disillusioned and depressed.

    Now, at this stage in my life, what path, or perhaps paths, can I take to move forward?

    Any insights, suggestions, recommendations, and so on would be greatly and sincerely appreciated.

  2. Hi!
    My child is going into year six she has recently been diagnosed with a learning difficulty, march this year. I have been in and out of school since she was in year three with concerns of her struggles I took her to the doctors but they did nothing, my child had school anxiety leading to bad attendance as it was hard for me to know how to deal with it, once I put my foot down with the school I got a reaction an essasment although I asked for this two years ago, my child has been failed.
    Thankyou!
    Tina!

    1. I am so sorry you are having difficulties like this it isn’t fair on children to fail them in such a way and it makes me sad that even now it is still happening.