Things People with Fibromyalgia Want you to Know
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Things People with Fibromyalgia Want you to Know

Fibromyalgia is both a common pain disorder and one that is commonly is misunderstood. If I had a pound for all the times I was told to just exercise and I'll be better, or to snap out of it, I would probably be a rich person. So to try and dispell a few myths here are a few things, both I and other people with Fibromyalgia want you to know.

Hug Me – But Not Too Hard. 
I still want the hugs I used to have, but please my skin hurts, so just be a little more gentle.

Yes, I Spend a Lot of Time in my PJs.
But they are comfortable! They don't feel like they are about to cut me in half like “normal” clothing does. However, don't worry I have a different pair for day and night.

Don't Make  Me Feel Bad For Cancelling Or Leaving Early.
I already feel bad enough about it.

I Never Know How I Will Feel Tomorrow. 
I can go to bed feeling OK and wake up feeling like I've done 10 rounds in a boxing ring, I hate it.

Yes, I Slept For 12 Hours, Yes I Still Feel Fatigued. 
It annoyed me as much as you, WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ME!!

I Can Be Quiet When I'm Having A Flare. 
But please do check on me, I maybe a while answering, or just grunt back at you, but it means the world.

Things people with fibro want you to know

Bright Lights, Loud Noises, Overly Powerful Scents Can All Set Me Off.
They overload my senses. For instance, the reverberations from loud noises can make me panic and feel ill.

Yes My Face Is Swollen. 
As are my hands, wrists, legs, ankles, basically most places.

There is Never a Pain-Free Day.
A “good” day means I can deal with the pain better.

Yes, I was too Hot and Yes Now I am too Cold. 
My body can't regulate its temperature properly I go one way and keep on going till I bounce back the other.

Other Fibro suffers say: 
Don't touch me! The amount of times colleagues pat me on the back or nudge me playfully as they walk past is unreal. What might be a playful tap to them feels like a sledgehammer, or knife to me. So no I'm not overreacting, just don't touch me!
and
“Oh what have you done to yourself?” When I'm using my stick! I haven't DONE anything, even if I had it would be nunyabusiness!
– Amanda-Jaied Love and OAS

I'm not too young to have pain,
Its real, and it doesn't come and go I have it ALL the time! (based on the fact someone once said to me “but you don't have fibro all the time” LOL.
It's not fun not being able to live a normal life, but it's my life and let me live it the way I see fit!
– Rebecca Once Upon a Fibro Time

As much as I appreciate people wanting to help it really isn't as helpful as you think to tell me that your husband's sister's Mum is totally cured by… (insert random diet, health fad or bizarre exercise regime) and hearing that you know someone with fibro so mild that they live a totally normal life is lovely, for them, but sadly isn't my reality.
– Laura Petit Moi – Big World

That losing weight or thinking positively is not a solution….whilst losing 10 stone did improve my fibromyalgia a bit it did not get rid of it completely and no amount of counselling has made it go away and it never will!
– Jen Just Average Jen

So there are a few things I and others want you to know about having Fibromyalgia, did anything on the list surprise you? 

This article has 70 comments

  1. Margaret gallagher

    So many prople mis understand this
    It can be so crippling and lead to social isolation
    Great post to spread awareness

  2. Fiona Abbey

    I don’t have Fibro (I don’t think) but this made an interesting read and some of my symptoms are explained above.

    It’s made me consider this as something to mention when I get to the hospital and would explain a hell of a lot.

    Fiona xx

  3. robin rue

    I had heard of fibromyalgia, but I didn’t really know what it was. It sounds like a pretty crappy disease 🙁

  4. Amber Myers

    I will keep this in mind for sure. I’m not sure if anyone I know has fibromyalgia, but if they did, I’d certainly be understanding about it.

  5. valmg @ Mom Knows It All

    I know a few people that have fibromyalgia. I think many people don’t understand illnesses they can’t see and are therefore skeptical about them.

  6. candy

    This is a disease that most people don’t understand. Not something people can see. Have a friend who has this and it is one day at a time.

  7. Julee

    Interesting reads. I am still learning about fibromyalgia. I appreciate this inside look to help me better understand the disease.

  8. Emma Raphael

    I really don’t know that much about it, so thank you for explaining it a little more. A good friend of mine has recently been diagnosed, so this is a very timely post for me. I hope they find something to cure it one day soon, it must be so hard for you. x

  9. Terri Beavers

    I have a friend with fibromyalgia and I feel so bad for her. It’s really a painful thing to have. I’m going to send her your link so she can see she’s not the only one that spends a lot of time in her jammies.

  10. Anosa

    I must admit I did not know much about Fibromyalgia so this post was very informational for me and I have actually learnt something today.

  11. Tomi C

    I had a co-worker with fibromyalgia and there were days she couldn’t get out of bed due to her pain. She really gave a lot of us a deeper insight into the disease and the pain associated with it. Sharing your post with a few of my friends so they too will have a better understanding.

  12. GiGi Eats

    Ugh. I sometimes feel as though I have mild symptoms of fibromyalgia – but then I remind myself I actually have a whole host of OTHER health conditions and the symptoms just overlap! My heart goes out to you though because just like my complications – there is no real CURE – just pure strength and willpower!

  13. Lynsey

    I am getting tested for fibro soon, I have had a lot of the symptoms, I hope you can find some comfort and this is some great advice, especially for people who don’t know what fibromyalgia sufferers go through.

  14. Lynn Woods

    This is a great, informative article. I had never heard of this until I met someone last year who suffered with it for many years, but no longer does.

    • Rosie

      Have never heard of anyone recovering from fibromyalgia before. Were there any significant factors contributing to this?

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey

      I have to admit I’ve never heard of anyone getting over it, normally it either stays as it is or gets progressively worse. How did they get better I’d love to hear more.

  15. alice lightning

    hubby has this crippling disease ,it diesnt just turn the person who has it upside down but the family too

  16. Rosie

    Can relate so much to touching hurting skin as well as wanting to just wear pj’s for comfort. I have to be very careful when buying new bedclothes as this is something which can cause me a great deal of discomfort.

  17. Amanda

    Thank you for your honest and heartfelt article. I do not know anyone with fibromyalgia right now, but this is making me feel more prepared for helping support any friend with an illness.

  18. Lisa

    I have a friend who has this and I never knew that it was so horrible. I think she puts on a brave face. I can’t imagine dealing with this.

  19. Dogvills

    Thank you for sharing this post. A lot of people are not aware of what a person with fibromyalgia goes through every single day. It is a horrible experience to be in constant pain.

  20. Super Busy Mum

    This is such a misunderstood condition so thank you for sharing this information!

  21. Kirsty

    This must be such a hard condition to live with and I’ve learnt a lot about the conduit from your post. I’m the same as I have type 1 diabetes. So many people misunderstand that x

  22. Ali || Veggies by Candlelight

    This is extremely informative, I don’t personally know anyone but this is great in the future. Thank you so much for sharing all of this information.

  23. Farrah Less G.

    I can’t imagine the body pain you were going through it wasn’t pleasant at all. I’m in mid 30’s ones in a while I experience back and leg pain.

  24. claire

    i love this post and i will be sharing on my business fb page later xx

  25. Chrissy Faery

    Oh my gosh! For me, it was Lyme (although I was initially misdiagnosed as having Fibro) but I can relate to this all SO much! I lost so many friends when I got sick as some took it personally when I wasn’t well enough to do things with them, and other’s thought a few harsh words would ‘snap me out of it’. Even my GP looked me in the eye once and snapped ‘your life is pointless!’..which hurt me more than anything. There seems to be such a widespread lack of understanding and compassion for those who are suffering from chronic illnesses. I hope with more awareness and wonderful posts like this though, that will eventually change <3 xxx

  26. Baby Isabella

    This sounds like my mummy at the moment. A good day for her means she can deal with the pain better. I can’t remember the last day she wasn’t in pain 🙁 Chronic pain and fatigue can really get you down. This is great to raise awareness for non-fibromyalgia sufferers x

  27. Caroline Wood

    Great article! I have fibro and its a blumming daily struggle! Its hard having a invisible disability

  28. Michelle Cantu

    I have an aunt and cousin who both have Fibromyalgia. It’s very difficult to make sure they feel understood, especially because they seem to have flareups at most family events. This is great info, thanks for breaking it down.

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey

      I always get a flareup at events, I think it’s the getting reading and sorted and trying to make sure your feeling fit enough and socialising IS tiring for anyone.

  29. Emily

    These are all so true! I have been dealing with Fibro since I was a senior in high school, although no one diagnosed me with it since in 2003 it was not really a thing doctors watched out for. When I had kids my Fibro became pretty unbearable for a while, but I still somehow keep going, leaving me exhausted to the point of barely being able to talk. It is a daily struggle and so hard for others to understand. Knowing there are others and I am not going crazy is a comfort.

  30. Ana De- Jesus

    It is horrible that it gives you so much pain and it makes me angry that some people judge without knowing the full story. I hope that your post educates them and shows that it is not something that goes away but is something that you have for life x

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey

      Hopefully it will help some people understand more, I think for some they really don’t know until they have it themselves but if it can help one person in some way it is worth having written it.

  31. Jaime Nicole

    This is such a great post. It can be hard for people to understand when an illness isn’t immediately visible. Thanks for educating us!

  32. Sandy N Vyjay

    So commendable of you to come out with a candid post about fibromyalgia. There is a general lack of awareness of the condition and hence this brings in a fresh perspective.

  33. Ashleigh

    I admit I never knew much about Fibromyalgia and have learned so much from reading this.

  34. paula cheadle

    my niece has this, alot of people don’t understand

  35. Sue Bielewicz

    I have friends and family who suffer from fibromyalgia, excruciating pain, life limiting and depressing. My mum misses out on quite abit with the grandkids because its too painful to join in

  36. Anneka Avery

    Absolutely wonderful post and every word is true. Fibromyalgia is one of the hardest conditions to learn to manage and is life changing. I lost many friends through it and still find it hard to this day to keep going. You are incredible! Xxx

  37. carla carthy

    Thank you for sharing this on here i have Fibro and i am also type 1 Diabetic with nerve
    pain all the above is true its so hard for people to understand and even harder to find a good GP to understand thamk you again xx

  38. fiona waterworth

    I have one major problem with my doctor who even though I was diagnosed at the hospital, does not believe its an actual disease.

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