Playing Cupid by Hillie Marshall: Dating Before the Apps
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Dating has changed quite a bit over the years. These days, meeting someone new can start with a swipe on your phone, but what did matchmaking look like before dating apps became part of everyday life?
Playing Cupid is a new memoir from Hillie Marshall, who founded the introduction agency Dinner Dates in the 1980s before going on to become a familiar face and voice as a dating expert and agony aunt.
With the book due to be released on 9th September, here’s a little more about Hillie’s story.
Playing Cupid by Hillie Marshall

Playing Cupid tells the story of Dinner Dates, the introduction agency Hillie set up in the mid-1980s.
Over the following 20 years, Hillie encountered everything from sweethearts and happy endings to scoundrels, stalkers and heartbreak, while becoming increasingly well known for her advice on dating and relationships.
The memoir looks back at a very different era of dating, before meeting someone online became the norm. Alongside stories from Hillie’s matchmaking years, it also explores lessons she’s picked up about love and life, including the idea that it’s never too late to start over.
Dating Before the Apps
I think this is probably the part of Playing Cupid I find most intriguing.
Online dating has become so normal that it’s strange to think about how differently people met just a few decades ago. An introduction agency offered another way to meet potential partners, but without profiles to scroll through or an algorithm deciding who might be a match.
Dinner Dates went on to become one of the country’s leading social events companies for single people, while Hillie’s experience led to appearances on programmes including The Big Breakfast, This Morning and GMTV. She also had her own show on LBC.
It means Playing Cupid isn’t just Hillie’s personal story, but a glimpse back at a period when the dating world looked very different from the one we know today.
Meet Hillie Marshall
Hillie’s career has taken more than a few interesting turns.
She started out as a radiographer before pursuing a career in theatre, appearing in opera, musical comedy, pantomime and plays.
She later formed her own production company, Edwardians Unlimited, producing Variety and Old Time Music Hall shows featuring names including Barbara Windsor, Roy Hudd, Leslie Crowther, Nicholas Parsons, Clive Dunn and Barry Cryer.
It was during the 1980s, while going through a divorce and bringing up her children, that Hillie founded Dinner Dates.
Her matchmaking experience eventually led to work as an agony aunt online and for magazines and newspapers, as well as television and radio appearances and three books about relationships.
Barbara Windsor once described Hillie as someone who “works from the heart”, adding that “no one has a bigger heart than Hillie.”
Hillie now lives with her second husband between West London and south-west France.
Playing Cupid Release Details
Playing Cupid by Hillie Marshall is published by SilverWood Books and is due for release on 9th September 2026.
The paperback is priced at £14.99, while the Kindle edition is £6.99.
It will be available via Amazon and can also be ordered through bookshops.
Win a Copy of Playing Cupid
Would you like to discover more about Hillie’s years spent playing Cupid?
Thanks to the lovely people behind Playing Cupid, I have three paperback copies to give away, meaning there will be three winners, each receiving a copy of the book.
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I’m glad my mom died by Jeanette mccurdy 8/10
No funny stories, but my lastest read is Notting Hell. I would recommend it with a rating of 8/10.
A super prize, hope I’m the lucky one.
Not really got a funny story but I am currently reading Halloween Town by Joss Wood and really enjoying it. I read her other book Summerween too. The covers on these books are so good!
My latest read was just got real by Jane fallon – 4/5. Her books are so fun and easy reads.
I read the September house i would rate it 4
I once went on a date where I was trying so hard to impress that I confidently ordered a wine I couldn’t pronounce… only for the waiter to ask, “Still or sparkling?” Safe to say the wine wasn’t the only thing that was flat that night!
I recently read Together by Julie Cohen and I would rate it a 5
On the first date with my partner now I was nearly wearing a drink after he spilt it as soon as the date started. Sixteen years later it didn’t put me off him.
No dating stories, but I did read Revolutionary Reprise of the Blue Rose Princess. The first book was average, but I was pleasantly surprised as it got really good by the second book. So I’d probably start with a 3 or 4/5 for the series and then bump it up to a 4/5 or 4.5/5.
I got stuck in the cinema toilets on one of my first dates with my husband. I was so worried he might think I’d abandoned him, I managed to scramble out by standing on the loo roll holder and climbing over the top. I must have been keen ha ha!
I don’t have a funny dating story. I’ve nearly finished And the Mountains Echoed by Khaled Hossaini. Like his other books, it has had me feeling all the emotions!
I went on a date with someone who didn’t say they were lactose intolerant and ended up spending more time in the toilet than on the date after eating a cheese pizza
I have just finished reading Matthew Pinsett;s autobiography –
so interesting.
First date with my children in a pub, very loud and eating a lot….it was not romantic but we really enjoyed it 🙂
As a youngster I joined a dating club. Me being me I tried to see about 3 or 4 girls at a time. Of course I forgot which one was which, and also forgot that I had even been out with one , when I met her out and about!