I back huzzahh! But not yet in full normal format – I’ve had a bad month, I spent a while comfort eating, then it was time of the month, then my IBS played up and well I won’t go into that but it just meant I felt I was on a road to nowhere, then there was this week…I could tell you all the good things that have happened I lost weight woohoo so proud of myself I have to admit I’m another 2 pounds down but then there was the incident. If you follow me on facebook you might have noticed this post: Just a bit of advice I’m sure most know anyway.When you see someone in the street who looks ‘different’ don’t shout abuse you never know what’s really gone on, how they came to be that way, what is underneath it all. Words do hurt; as much as we all say they shouldn’t and we should just ignore them sometimes it’s so much easier said than done.So just take a step back and think… How could what you’re saying effect the person you’re saying it too.Names can be hurtful.There are many reasons behind me and my weight to name a few:My Medication – it’s not so bad now but when I was on a higher dosage I used to take them and then within half an hour be ravenous but also partly-asleep, I would sneak downstairs and steal whole packets of biscuits, cakes, anything and everything I would then hide the evidence and never remember it in the morning, it was only when we came upon the ‘stash’ one time we realised what had been happening – main weight gain phase 1.An Ex – I’m not going to go into this too much there’s more on my past in old posts, but one of my abusive ex’s was also a feeder, he would have me making chips late at night and then would force me to eat them all (and I’m talking a big bag of spuds worth) and if I didn’t well that wasn’t worth thinking of – main weight gain phase 2. Mobility – Then there is now, after gaining and losing, gaining and losing I thought I was finally ’ok’ I wasn’t slim but I was happy, I was active and fit and then came swine flu. Followed by my CFS getting worse and then finally the Fibromyalgia diagnosis and here I am now. Not at my biggest no that would have been after phase 2, but still unhappy and wanting to feel like me again. – Phase 3.So the above statement was made at the end of a long upsetting day, we needed to pop into town to get some change for Ash as he was running low and back at work the next day, I decided to park in town I wasn’t feeling great so walking from a car park would have been near impossible and they have spaces through the town centre for those with mobility badges. So off I tootle with my Mum and Ash, find a space but some people have decided to stand partway in it, and don’t want to move so I park over to the side still in the space but not running them over. You know when you know something awful is coming I knew it then – I could see them peering through the windows, and as much as I wanted to move I decided to ignore them, get out and get on. That’s when it started.. ‘Oi Love you parked a bit far over ain’t ya’
I heard behind me – I should have ignored it I should have walked on, I don’t know why I didn’t something inside me made me turn around and say.
‘Well yes you were rather in the way and I thought it best not to run you over’.
I should have expected the reply that would come, I should have known better. ‘Fat C***’Yes there in the middle of town I was called fat and the c word, surrounded by people, all looking at me, funnily her friends and her scampered off rather quickly after then shouting.
‘Oi I’m talking to you’
When I failed to respond or even look at them – I was reliably informed, and I was ok for a bit, but then it hit me and I started crying, it hurt I’m not sure which part more to be honest, as I’m not one for swearing and I despise the ‘c’ word. So please when you look at the above statement, try and put it into every situation you can just think if you don’t know the full story, don’t judge, don’t stare, and please don’t shout names. They do hurt. I think I’ve rambled on for enough this week – please check out my weigh in buddies.Jane – 7HippoptamusLaura - Ray Mears Extreme HousewiferyAlison – Dragons and Fairy DustCheryl – Madhouse Family Reviews
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Well done on your loss. Some people are so ignorant, I hope it didn’t get to you too much.Sends hugs
Oh that’s just awful, don’t let them get to you (easier said than done) and WELL DONE YOU on your weightloss xxx
(Boo hooo you missed me off your weightloss buddies !! lol
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are you kidding me? people are cruel and ugly inside. i know it hurt but please dont ever waste your tears on someone so ignorant and so nasty inside that they would say something like that to anyone. if anything you have to almost feel sorry for someone like her with such a low self esteem that they feel they need to spew such nasty words for a laugh and put another down. sad. i hope you walk away now feeling 10 times better about the person you are. good for you on your weight loss!
Good job on the loss! I know people can be cruel, but you are better and stronger than they are. I’m on a weight loss journey myself, hoping to get rid of these ridiculous last 50 pounds once and for all.
I’m stopping by from the blog walk. I’d love for you to visit me at
http://www.fashionablysaving.wordpress.com
I’ll be liking you on Facebook
as well.
Awww some people can be so mean, I just don’t know how they live with themselves? Remember words only hurt if we let them, next time just don’t listen, which I know is easier said than done, and like you I would have been upset too. But you know what they said isn’t true, you are a 1000 times better person than they would ever be. You look lovely on your photo. How sad that their only role in life is to make fun of others, it’s them that have the problem.
I’m so glad that you’ve joined us again this week, I’ve had a few bad weeks myself too. I’m really pleased that you’ve lost this week, well done. xx
I came over from the link up and i sure know how you feel, i have gained a lot of weight in the past year bc of medication from a lung surgery, i am ready to loose it as well. i am now def a follower of you and hope we can be friends<3
i blog over here
http://ramblingmomma03.blogspot.ca/
Wow, I haven’t been following you for that long, and didn’t know that much of your story. That must have been hard to write and props for your courage.
I also struggle with weight issues. I feel tired all the time. I found you through Blog Hop.
http://www.beauti-ville.com
All I can say is GRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!! And *biggest hugs* Proud of you for everything you’ve achieved despite all the bad stuff in your life previously sweetie, and you’re wayyyy better than that idiot!!! xoxoxoxoxoxox
People can be so rude and inconsiderate. Words can be so hurtful! I struggle with weight too. I am so glad that I found your blog through the GFC Hop!
Thank you so much – I had a little cry, ate a bit then moved on luckily. And I’ve been back into town since lol *hugs* xx
Thank you
it did at the time but not well I just think at least I’m not them, give me some extra weight over the need to speak to others like that any day.
Nooooooooooooooo your on now I’m so sorry!! xx
I wish I was, I think I had to have my cry but my other half helped turn it around in the end he may have said some not so nice things about the other person and got me laughing my head of (naughty I know). But you know I’m changing myself – I have the help of Jenny Craig behind me – some wonderful weight loss buddies and the fact I’m not ashamed. Each snide comment can only make me stronger as has all the other ‘badness’ in my life.
Maybe one day someone will come across this post after someones said the same or similar to them and I hope it and the comments will in turn help them – make them know they are the better person, they are not alone.
After all it’s easier to change ones weight (in most cases) personality transplants and vocabulary upgrades are yet to be on the market.
Thank you so much – if you want to come and comment on post with us on a Sunday you would be more than welcome – we are always around on twitter as well
. Good or bad weeks aren’t minded.
I shall definitely be popping over and having a look now – thank you. x
I guess in there minds I was in the wrong? Is it wrong I actually wished I had ran them over for a few seconds lol.
Thank you so much and thank you for keeping me going I think if it wasn’t for our little chats on twitter I would have given up
xx
Hey thank you so much
– it’s horrid isn’t it people seem to just assume you gain weight as your ‘lazy’ but I doubt there are many who that is the sole reason for – even deep under it all if the reason isn’t obvious like weight meds I’m sure there something some wall they are trying to put up and hide behind. I hope we can be friends as well 
If you ever want to join in with our posts your more than welcome *hugs* xx
One day I’d like to get the full story down – even if just for myself as a way to get it out, maybe I’ll put it on a blog and write it in doses. x
Welcome
Aww if you ever want to come and moan about it pop over on a Sunday – have you checked with the doc to see if the tiredness is anything? Popping back to you now xx
*huggles* Aww thank you hun I almost text you about it but I don’t know why I didn’t lol. <3<3 you xxxxxxxxx
Aww welcome! So glad you have you here.. x
oh poor you, try to shrug it off as they are inadequate human beings. Karma will get them xxx
SHAME on them!! I wish I could chase them down and… and… well, scold them at least!!
Huge believer in karma luckily so think they might have a big one waiting to come and bite them
xx
Haha I can imagine it now we could all chase them down the road bet they wouldn’t be laughing then *giggleS* x
I hope you don’t let it get you down for too long. Throwing insults at someone you don’t know is childish, ignorant and cruel. I hope, one day, when they have grown up a bit, they think about it and feel ashamed.
Im sorry this happened to you! I cant believe how hurtful people are
I think she was probably never going to grow up she looked 30s feel sorry for her looking back to be honest. x
It’s amazing isn’t that some people think it’s ok and the right thing to do – makes you wonder what they were taught as a child x
People like that generally have problems in their lives. There was a well known drunk on crutches who caught the bus yesterday, and the nice bus driver waited for him, told him to take his time getting on and off. When the drunk got off he gave the bus driver the finger! Now, there is no excusing him being so rude, but I know that this man hates life and drinks because he lost his two children. He’s so angry at the world. Can you blame him?