Find Your Voice

amelia lily - find your voice I’ve spoken before about my experiences of bullying before – I think it’s only as I’ve got older I have learnt to except it was bullying in fact even until I wrote that post at the back end of the last year I wouldn’t have said it was – after all who would expect a teacher to bully a pupil. I think in many ways it did turn my life upside down – I turned from being an outgoing confident kid to the one that was always second guessing everything and believing nothing I did was good enough. As much I would love to say I’ve kicked those insecurities I know I still hang on to many of them though slowly I hope I am learning to let go, and part of me just feels extremely sorry that someone such as this teacher felt the need to ridicule a child, instead of trying to work out what was really wrong.

While as a child I would throw a sickie to get away from it all, or always know the end of the day would mean escape to my home it’s not so simple these days with social media and mobile phones enabling us to be in contact 24/7 getting away just isn’t so easy.

Beat Bullying and Make Mine Milk have teamed up with Amelia Lily to launch a new campaign/competition that could see your song or poem being sung by Amelia Lily herself.

To find out more about how you can get involved and what you need to do to enter have a watch of this video:
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  20Comments

  1. siggy po   •  

    Bullying is a huge problem worldwide and with the help with people on the media it will hopefully open peoples eyes to whats going on they are more likely to listen to people who are i the public eye

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey   •     Author

      We can but hope, so many things that shouldn’t happen in the world – bullying is one. x

  2. Paula V   •  

    So, so sad that people have to endure bullying…sad too for those who are doing the bullying because they obviously have some emotional issues not dealt with to take it out on other people.

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey   •     Author

      It is isn’t it -something that some can just never get over as well..

      I guess we all need to learn to speak up as well when we see things going on. x

  3. Rosey   •  

    Out of all four kids, all of their teachers have been wonderful (knock on wood) except one, my second oldest child’s 1st grade teacher. She was a terrible bully and though it was many years ago I still marvel as to why she stayed in education.

    I’m sorry you share a similar experience. Bullying’s def. for the birds and then some.
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    • Sarah-Louise Bailey   •     Author

      It’s crazy isn’t it you would think a teacher would be there to nurture and protect. x

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey   •     Author

      Definitely – I think the more we can talk about it the more people will realise it’s not shameful to speak up it’s what you should do x

  4. Vicki Hale   •  

    they didn’t call it bullying when i went to school. But, boy was I ever bullied by a group of girls, I see some of the same things happening to my granddaughter, we encourage her to go to school administrators about it, and she has. Thank you

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey   •     Author

      Good on your Grandaughter what a strong young lady she is, I do hope things are better for her now :) x

  5. Holly M Uhler   •  

    I hate to admit I learned at a very young age to just let it roll off my back. I had to, I was tormented in school for being overweight, unable to afford to be a “gap” kid, my mother was in a very abusive relationship (mentally) and unfortunately us kids were the ones who received the brunt end of his verbal abuse. He knew exactly what to say and when to say it to make you cry. My “off” trigger came at the age of 13. They were fighting and in the middle of the fight he threw in my mothers face about never telling me my father is probably not my biological dad. I stood there, my skin tingly like pins and needles, I broke into instantanious sweats and forced myself to keep a straight face and not show a single emotion as my mother blurted that yes she told me and I knew and was OK with it. I couldn’t cry! I couldn’t gasp, or scream… I just stood there staring at the wall white as a ghost, shaking like a leaf and trying not to throw up or sob because I was not going to let him have the benefit of winning the argument with such dirty tactics. That night I went into the basement and cried myself sick than I passed out. The next morning when I woke up I was distinctly numb. Almost like I just found out the worst possible thing in my life…. Nothing anyone could do or say would EVER top the hurt and betrayal I felt that day. And so, because of that I have become disinterested, and indifferent to almost all things. I often feel like I am emotionally frigid. I don’t seem to have an emotional trigger in a lot of ways. I knew for sure I loved my fiance when one night I had a very realistic dream that he was in a car accident and died. The pain I felt when first waking up and the tears I cried were the first real emotion I had in years. Than when my children were born I think a bit of that frozen heart thawed. They are the one thing in my life I know for sure I would die for and not even think twice.

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey   •     Author

      What a horrific thing to have to go through as a child – I’m so glad things have turned round you have your children and your other half to love you and care for you. You are obviously a very strong person both to have lived through that and have come out the other side. Thank you so much for sharing x

  6. md kennedy   •  

    When I was growing up I wasn’t bullied nor do I remember seeing any bullying going on in our school. Either I was ignorant, or it was very subversive, or it just wasn’t something that we did in our school. We had a “special” (learning disabled) mini-school right in our high school and we were all expected to help out in one way or another, so I guess that was a big help in sensitizing us to “differences.” You just don’t see kids getting this kind of exposure anymore so I can see how they would start bullying as a defense to discomfort and the unknown – though that is not an excuse. Parents have to step up and do more!

    • Sarah-Louise Bailey   •     Author

      I think it is possible for it not to happen, or at least I would love to think it is :). x

  7. Paul Wilson   •  

    What a good campaign, keep up the good work.

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